Wednesday, August 24, 2016

When Motavational Quotes and Speakers Aren't

"Winners never quit, and quitters never win"

Who hasn't seen that quote. I understand the reasoning behind it. When you are facing adversity, keep going. But is that really good advice?

I recently had a friend put out this quote "97% of the people who quit too soon now work for the 3% who didn't".

This struck a nerve with me. Since when is the ultimate goal of anyone to never step back and see if what they are doing is even the thing they should be doing? Is that "quitting too soon"?

With the recently completed Olympics, we got to celebrate athletes and their abilities for 16 days. It would be interesting to know how many of these athletes have changed the event or specialty they compete in over their careers. Did they "quit too soon"? What if the shot put throwers really wanted to be and worked at being swimmers? Or Gymnasts really desired to be pole vaulters? Did they quit too soon on their dreams?

The reason I post this should be obvious. Not everyone will be successful at whatever they find a passion for, but learning something completely unfamiliar may bring huge success. In the case of athletes, how many hundreds of thousands participate in high school athletics? Reduce that to how many thousands in college and even fewer professionally.

If only they all would not have "quit too soon"!

In the case of people with a chronic illness, their health dictates what they will do. Some will do much, some less. And yet it is important to determine what "less" really is. Is it really less?

My wife works in long term care. There is a debate about quality of life that surfaces from time to time in the care of the elderly. One argument is that when mom or grandma is no longer able to enjoy her life, their life has no value. I find that to be incredibly short sighted. Perhaps their value is in teaching the caregivers and family humility and respect for the elderly. Or patience. Or empathy.

Is that of less value than being out in the world pushing and striving to get ahead?

I've never heard a motivational speaker or seen a motivational quote that says "If you want to get ahead, you need to step back". Maybe they should.

People need to stop what they are doing when what they are doing is getting them nowhere. I believe a familiar quote goes something like this, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results".

Sounds like sometimes quitting too soon is the right thing to do.

If you are a fan of the motivational gurus of today, good for you. Personally, I find their talk pointless drivel. We really all find our drive from within. It is a long life if you have to be constantly pushed and prodded to keep going. At times, yes. Constantly, yikes!

The point of this whole post is that if you are pushing and succeeding, good for you! If you are struggling right now, maybe your purpose is to step back, look at the real purpose in your life, and be as humble and patient and kind as you can to those you depend on. Your purpose might be to benefit them.

And maybe, just maybe, by "quitting too soon" and redirecting your efforts, you will end up being the 1% that advises the 3% that employs the 96% on how to be a better human being rather than just a successful one.

'Til next time


Just a guy trying to live with an invisible, potentially debilitating illness

Thursday, August 18, 2016

I know it caused it, and I can't prove it!

Anyone who has experienced Crisis of Tumarken, aka drop attacks, knows they are likely the most dangerous part of the complex condition of Meniere's disease. I've seen too many photos of broken arms, smashed and bleeding faces, and stories of concussions because of them. I'm also very thankful that my experiences with them have scared the bejeepers out of me and those who have witnessed them, yet have left me virtually unharmed. One minute you are upright, the next you are picking yourself off the ground. Always aware of what happened, yet completely clueless as to what happened.

My history with these started early on with the disease. And often. It usually involved me falling to the right when I first started getting them. Usually I was standing...............on concrete. My poor right shoulder bore the brunt of the blow. Yet I was fortunate to not have any immediate injuries that required medical intervention.

That was in the 1990's.

As time has worn on, I started having bursitis in that shoulder. I would get a deep tissue massage and it would go away for a while. Perhaps I would get bursitis and massage 3 times a year. Then 6. Then massage started getting expensive, and bursitis got more frequent.

Ice and heat. Heat and Ice. Repeatedly.

I really can't tell you how long I have been dealing with this chronic, returning bursitis, but it has been at a minimum 5 years.

I tried stretches. As I mentioned, I used ice and heat and massage. I tried chiropractic. This allowed me to function.

In the last six months the pain kept building and the range of motion kept shrinking. The strength was going away as well. It finally got to the point that trying to change a lightbulb cause burning pain down my arm.

As much as I didn't want to, it was time to check it out. Time for a trip to an orthopedist. They sent me to physical therapy. 3 weeks of that made it hurt worse and my range of motion didn't improve much. We tried a cortisone shot in the shoulder to lessen the pain to allow me to work past the pain points. It never touched it.

After some discussions, we felt the best option was for a scope of the shoulder to fix whatever they found. It is a bit unnerving to go into a surgical procedure with everything from a simple cleanup to rotator cuff repair up to, but not including a shoulder replacement on the table.

That was done 2 weeks ago, and if I were to guess what would be done on the way in to surgery, I would have guessed rotator cuff. I would have been wrong. Instead, I got the best possible outcome, a general cleanup of the shoulder and having them break through a fair amount of scar tissue while I was asleep. No major damage at all.

Now I have to endure more physical therapy, but it at least doesn't hurt near as bad and my range of motion is returning quickly.

Was it the drop attacks and falling on my shoulder so many times starting so many years ago? There is no way to know for sure. All I can do is speculate and use circumstantial evidence: I fell on my right shoulder. I had recurring bursitis in my right shoulder. My right shoulder had a substantial amount of scar tissue and inflammation.

But I can't prove it.

'Til next time


Just a guy trying to live with an invisible, potentially debilitating illness

Tuesday, August 2, 2016

A Weekend With a Menerian

Having just returned from a weekend wedding for my God daughter, I thought it would be a good idea to share what a weekend (or any 2 days, for that matter) might be like with Meniere's disease.

Friday morning was spent getting packed and ready to go on a 5 to 6 hour drive for the wedding. Yeah, it was a hike. Thankfully my daughter needed some hours for her drivers license. That got me off the hook for driving.

We left home around 1 pm and because of a detour to see the college campus my oldest will be attending, we arrived at our hotel around 8:30 pm. Then it was off to a pre-wedding gathering until 11. I admit I enjoyed a beer. Singular. And I ate the food they had prepared. And it was a late night, getting to bed around 11:30 pm.

Saturday morning I woke up later than usual, but it was a Saturday, and I was on a mini vacation. Who cares what time I got up! After eating the free breakfast, which consisted of 1 waffle and 1 cup of decaf coffee, I returned to my room. Was that fun. It was time to greet the walls. The longer I sat in my room, the worse I felt. Lovely. I just traveled a long way to have a "hello walls" kind of day. The longer I sat, the less I was convinced my breakfast would stay down, or I would stay up. Finally I gave in and crashed in bed. Did I mention that this was my God-daughter's wedding day? And that I had traveled a long distance for it? Yeah, nice. Real nice.

I managed to stay up for 1 1/2 hours before crashing in a Meniere's induced heavy sleep, for 4 hours.

When I did wake up, there was 2 hours before the wedding. The normal headache and exhaustion still was there. It took me 45 minutes to get the energy to shower. I did feel a bit better following, but I wasn't convinced I would make an attempt to go to the wedding at all.

Being one to keep pushing, I went. And to the reception. And the dance.

As the night wore on, I did start to feel better and better. As the dance started, I was sitting right on the edge of the dance floor. The music wasn't loud. The lights weren't bad until............that blasted green one. I have no idea why green bothered. I am assuming I am Superman and the green light was Kryptonite! It was brutal and I removed myself to the back of the hall, then outside, where the brides mother (and very dear friend) asked how I was doing. That is one couple with great empathy for people. It's nice to have those kind of people in your life.

We retired early from the dance and wouldn't you know it, I sat there at 10:30 at night, wide awake and feeling the best I had all day.

The trip home was uneventful and I did all the driving. One particularly bumpy stretch was beginning to mess with my eyes, but we made it through it. For the first time traffic was a bit bothersome as well.

I highly doubt one beer is what did me in on the trip. I've had one before and always limit my intake. Perhaps it was the whole day being off from my usual.

I don't know, and I am not one to dwell on trying to figure it out. To me, that's the fastest way to insanity with this.

But at least I went, I survived, and made my God-daughter very glad I was there.

And Meniere's still sucks.

'Til next time


Just a guy trying to live with an invisible, potentially debilitating illness

Saturday, July 23, 2016

Hearing Loss is Hearing Loss is Hearing Loss, Right? Think Again!

  • About 20 percent of Americans, 48 million, report some degree of hearing loss.
  • At age 65, one out of three people has a hearing loss.
  • 60 percent of the people with hearing loss are either in the work force or in educational settings.
  • While people in the workplace with the mildest hearing losses show little or no drop in income compared to their normal hearing peers, as the hearing loss increases, so does the reduction in compensation.
  • About 2-3 of every 1,000 children are hard of hearing or deaf
  • Estimated that 30 school children per 1,000 have a hearing loss.


Staggering statistics, if you really think about it. And here is another. According to the CDC in the US, 70% of young adults with hearing loss are employed. That means a 30% unemployment rate for young adults with a hearing loss. (

But is all hearing loss the same? After all, if you can't hear, you can't hear, right? Wrong.

Hearing loss is as different as the person with it. To start with, you have different degrees of hearing loss.

The picture above shows what a typical audiogram may look like for a person with hearing loss. The frequencies refer to the pitch. Low frequency, low pitch sounds. High frequency, high pitch sounds.

It also shows the different decibels of hearing loss. In this case, low tones are normal, but as the frequency increases, it falls through mild, to moderate, to severe. This person would not hear women's voices well. Higher pitches would be lost.

But that is only part of the story. It only shows the level of loss, not the kind of loss. Yes, there are different kinds of hearing loss.

Hearing loss comes in three flavors, if you will. They are conductive loss, sensorineural loss, and combined loss.

Conductive loss happens when there is an obstruction in the flow of sound to the inner ear (cochlea). The inner ear is where "hearing" takes place. (Really, it takes place in the brain, but that is another subject.) Some causes of conductive hearing loss include:
  • Fluid in the middle ear from colds
  • Ear infection (otitis media)
  • Allergies (serous otitis media)
  • Poor eustachian tube function
  • Perforated eardrum
  • Benign tumors
  • Impacted earwax (cerumen)
  • Infection in the ear canal (external otitis)
  • Swimmer's Ear (otitis ecxterna)
  • Presence of a foreign body
  • Absence or malformation of the outer ear, ear canal, or middle ear
Hearing aids would probably perform poorly, or not at all, in this type of hearing loss. Making things louder when they can't get into the cochlea is of no use. And chances are, the cochlea may be perfectly healthy.

What needs to happen is for the underlying cause to be fixed, in some of the cases, or for the sound to find another route to the cochlea. This can be done with bone conduction. Some examples are bone conducting headphones and bone anchored hearing aids, but it takes a healthy cochlea to work.

Notice what wasn't on the list of causes of conductive loss? Meniere's disease. That is because that type of hearing loss is the second type, sensorineural.

Sensorineural loss happens when the tiny hairs in the cochlea are damaged or broken. The sound gets to the cochlea, but how it interacts with the hairs is changed. Instead of it flowing across them at an even rate, some are bent or missing, and so are those pitches in hearing. That is why things sound off. The letter T sounds like the letter D, so Tom sounds like Dom, or Dumb. Or it is missing completely and sounds like OM. That is why comprehension of words and conversations become hard. Things sound different or aren't there. In the case of Meniere's, the low pitches go first, so all you may hear is TA instead of Tom. Setaces beco ipossa to udderstad. (Sentences become impossible to understand) See what's missing?

Sensorineural is typical hearing loss. It is the type that happens with aging, as shown in the picture, or noise exposure, or disease, such as Meniere's. The only difference is the slope. With Meniere's, the slope reverses from the picture and is called, surprisingly, reverse slope hearing loss.

This type of loss CAN be helped with hearing aids up to the point of severe or profound loss. After that, the sounds are amplified to such a degree that things are loud, very loud, and likely still not able to be understood. That is where advance solutions, such as cochlear implants come in.

The third type of hearing loss is a combination of conductive and sensorineural. It takes the best (or worst) of both and puts them together. Challenging, but not necessarily impossible to help.

I think it is wise to learn the types and degree of your loss before going out and spending endless money on things that will never help you hear. That only leads to frustration and aggravation.

If your current hearing specialist hasn't or doesn't help you understand these things, find a new one. It's your ears and your hearing. You deserve to have it explained to you in a way you understand and to be helped in a way that does more than line their wallets. Far too many hearing aid dispensers will put a hearing aid on anything to gain a sale. Their goal should be to help people they can actually help and send those they can't to someone who can.

'Til next time


Just a guy trying to live with an invisible, potentially debilitating illness

Friday, July 15, 2016

Finding the Passion Again

Warning! This post has nothing directly related to Meniere's disease!

Now that that is out of the way, I've been struggling. Not with the disease, that has been relatively silent (pun intended). What I've been struggling with is my purpose. My first love and passion was farming. That's gone for now, although I still have some land I could do something with.

What I find myself struggling with is what do I find as a second passion? Of course, I am back in school for accounting. I enjoy it, both school and what I have done with accounting, such as taxes and a bit of consulting. But it isn't my overall passion. Don't get me wrong, I am good at school. I will be very good as an accountant. It just isn't what drives me to go on to bigger and better things.

Nothing does anymore.

I've dabbled in other things. They're fun, but not something I could see myself immersed in for the next 15 to 20 years.

I feel lost.

Drifting around waiting for something to slap me upside my head and say "hey, this is it! Let's get busy!"

It's a real challenge.

I've always been a worker. I guess you could say I'm a blue collar kind of guy.  No, more of an enigma.

You see, while I loved the hard, physically draining work, it was never mentally challenging enough to satisfy me. Yet when I now find myself in the classroom giving my brain a workout, at least in some classes, I find myself longing for the days of yore when I could proudly say to myself that I could outwork men half my age, and usually did.

I just mentioned to my wife this evening that while I farmed, I always felt more comfortable talking to doctors, lawyers, professors, etc. than I did to other farmers.

Yet that is where my heart is at- farming.

So that is the dilemma I find myself in.

Do I find a way to go back into some type of farming? I have enough land that I could do small scale, direct market type ventures. Fresh produce, chickens, eggs, maybe expand on the small ruminants I have. Will I find my passion in that? Or is that relegated to the status of hobby, hopefully profitable. I am not wild on the whole farmers market scene. It seems like a whole lot of work for the amount of sales generated. Maybe it is used more for making a direct connection to long term markets than it is to make a living carting produce and products from town to town. From the successful people I know in this type of venture, it takes years to build a clientele.

Or do I put all my efforts into the accounting aspect of life. As I said, I will be a very good accountant. Can I be good enough and respected enough to gain back my passion? Many I have talked with at the college have told me that bachelors degree accountants have people looking for them rather than them looking for work. And that is only projected to grow-rapidly.

I've always believed that if you have passion for what you do, you will never work a "job". I have never had a job, and I certainly don't want to start now.

'Til Next Time


Just a guy trying to live with an invisible, potentially debilitating illness

Sunday, July 10, 2016

Memories, Truths, and a Mini Rant

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This morning I was greeted by this "memory" shared by my wife from Facebook from July 10th, 2013.

"We have finished testing and consult for Dennis. Plan is to do cochlear implant in the left ear. Just have to wait for insurance approval before we can schedule. This will restore some hearing. We still have to deal with having episodes related to the right ear."

This brought out some of my memories of the last three years and things that are still as true today as they were then, and even back when first diagnosed in 1992.

  • I did nothing to "get" this disease. It's a disease, not a result of some activity I did or did not participate in. This makes blaming ourselves a pointless waste of time and energy.
  • There is no known cause.  The name implies that for true Meniere's disease. Idiopathic Endolymphatic Hydrops- Idiopathic means no known cause. Those who claim they know the cause do not. And if they do know a cause, then you do not have true Meniere's disease.
  • There is no known cure. Again, those who claim a cure do not have one, and if you are "cured" you likely did not have true Meniere's disease. Stopping your symptoms is NOT a cure.
  • Hearing loss is likely.
  • Along the same lines, I did nothing to cause my hearing loss. Quit blaming me! In my case, quite the opposite was true. At the first sign of hearing loss, I did everything possible to prevent it. I used ear plugs, hearing protection, avoided (as best I could) situations where loud, prolonged exposure would happen.
  • Hearing aids may not help. Accept the fact that my hearing is bad. Endlessly telling me to "get a hearing aid" is only going to aggravate me. I know my hearing history and test results. Unless you are a licensed AuD, keep you opinions to yourself.
  • Despite my very best efforts, I may still have vertigo attacks. That is the very nature of the disease. It comes, it goes. The length of time for each will vary from person to person and from time of year to time of year. It will also vary from one point with the disease to another. That is the difficult part. You have no idea if, when, or how long you are going to have any aspect of the disease.
  • Everyone deals with things differently. Don't tell me so-and-so was or wasn't able to do certain things. That's them. This is me. I may be stronger than some. I may be weaker. Comparing me with others won't make me feel better or worse, just tired of hearing about them and tired of you.
  • There ARE things that will help control symptoms. Some more easily for some than others. Ultimately, a completely destructive treatment should control my symptoms. If not, it is likely I was misdiagnosed. No one WANTS to have the destructive treatments, but sometimes they are necessary. No one wants to be left deaf or without any balance function, but that is what destructive treatments do. Don't condemn me for delaying them as long as possible, and don't condemn me for using them. If I, in consult with medical professionals, decide it is the best way to control life altering attacks, it is my choice. I know the possible outcomes. I'm willing to take that risk because it is better than living the way I am.
Three years ago I was ready to jump right to the destructive on my right ear as I had good results from it 18 years prior with my left. It would have been far better than what I was living with in July 2013. I even told my ENT that. I remember telling him "if given a choice between being deaf and feeling good, or hearing and feeling like crap, I would choose deaf in an instant."

He proceeded to give me a Cochlear implant and work on treating my right ear.

Thankfully, I have had great results from the implant and the treatment-so far.

'Til next time


Just a guy trying to live with and invisible, potentially debilitating illness

Friday, June 17, 2016

I guess I'm in it for the long haul

My last blog mentioned that it has been three years since this last round of the fight with Meniere's began. Part of the counter-attack that my ENT used was a diurectic. Specifically, he put me on Diazide, or the generic name, Triamterene, at a 37.5 mg daily dose. The reason for the use of this particular diuretic is that it preserves potassium while helping to eliminate sodium and therefore, fluid, from a persons body.

The importance of preserving K is that if you deplete the body of it, you get muscle cramps. That would not be an acceptable thing.

I am not complaining about taking it. I have handled it well with no major side effects. It does stink to not be able to take being in the sun like I was used to. I burn easier. The funny thing is, even though I read the literature on the drug, it didn't click with me for a while that this was the reason I got sun burnt easier. It is a small issue and one that can be helped by sunscreen and lotion. Now if I could get in the habit of actually using them.

These types of medications are primarily used for high blood pressure, which makes it interesting for me. I've never had high blood pressure. I always run low. Even before taking this med, I typically ran 100/60. After I had started on them, I had a routine physical with a Nurse practitioner. As she was reading through my chart she got a bit upset and asked "who put you on this med? You don't need it!"

Naturally, I needed to do a bit of education as to the use and I gave her the name of the ENT at my clinic if she felt the need to follow up. After explaining what the purpose was, she calmed down. I don't think she appreciated being out of the loop.

The point of this rambling is that it has been three years of continuous use. I thought it might be worth asking the question if my ENT's plan was for me to stay on it for the rest of my life, or if they had other thoughts. Again, I'm not opposed, I just thought it would be a good idea to check. I haven't seen my ENT in person since my second Cochlear implant surgery in April of 2015 and we didn't discuss my Meniere's. The last real time we discussed that may have been June of 2014.

Last week I sent them a note and asked what the plan was.

A couple of days ago, I got a phone call from a team member saying that it was the intent for me to remain on them at the level I am at for the foreseeable future. She laid out the reasons behind it and it sounded a bit like "since you have not had any major issues, why risk it?" She then suggested that sometime in the next year, maybe I should just schedule a follow up to talk about how things are, or aren't, going.

So, that's where I'm at.

I guess I am on them for the long haul.

I'm not really upset about it, nor am I overly thrilled.

I think I may agree with the ENT team, and if something seems to be making some kind of difference, why risk changing it up?

I certainly wish I could get by without, but I definitely can do without a return to the days of endless hours of vertigo and vomiting.

'Til next time


Just a guy trying to live with an invisible, potentially debilitating illness